A story about focus.

Unlike most people, you’re insanely focused.

You scroll through your feed at 100mph, eyes flitting around like a humming-bird.

Your visions rests briefly on guru saying “Instagram is the best place to make money.” You immediately spend your day making your grid look nice. Three people see it.

The next day you ‘take off’ to recover from all the ‘productive’ work you did the day before. Ah yes, time to binge Game Of Thrones, it’s great escapism after all. “Self-care, woo!”

The following day you wake up and decide to post in your Facebook group “for a change.” As a solopreneur, you’ve gotta avoid boredom. Perhaps you can get those 40 members up to 50, right? Somehow night arrives and by the end of the day, your member-count’s up to a whopping 41. You crunch down your disappointment at a wasted twenty-four hours, then rationalize it away by saying “Hey, at least I got one more member.” Progress!

You wake up and realize you’re over halfway into your week & have accomplished practically nothing. Your pretty grid, GoT-binging, and Facebook Group efforts got you nowhere. You spend your day whining to family and friends about how depressing your life is and how hard business is. They don’t want to talk to a negative sad-sack, so they quickly shut you up by saying “it’s not your fault”, then they distract you with fun jokes and conversation. They provide zero proper feedback and zero help in your business. And even though the only thing you truly need right now is to make some fucking money, you still indulge in their comfort-calls because their candy-coated words make you forget your 3 straight days of accomplishing nothing. You fall asleep after a hard day of fluff-conversations and gossip, worrying about the rent you won’t make if this keeps up.

Do you change something on day five? Of course you do, you’re no slacker. And what is the change? Well, you realize you’ve been living off junk food, and that’s gotta be why you’ve been so unmotivated lately. Thing is, you started living off fast-food to “make more time” for your biz, but that reasoning is long forgotten. Instead, you flip-flop on your fast-food time-management trick. Screw that. Healthy meals are what you needed all along, for sure! Fix the junkfood, fix the motivation, and get back to your long-neglected YouTube channel ASAP. That’s the ticket! Ahhh… but that means an hour or two navigating the stores to get groceries first. And once that’s done, cooking will take some time. Then eating. Then washing all the dishes you made. Whew, this meal plan took most of the day, and you’re pretty bushed. Surely it couldn’t hurt to unwind with a few episodes of Breaking Bad before working on your YT channel. So Netflix it. By the time you try logging into your YouTube account, it’s after sunset, and you’re surprised to find that it’s been so long you’ve forgotten your YT password and been locked out of your account. Oh well, take a bath and call it a day. There’s always tomorrow.

Some people would take Saturday off, but not you. You’re a determined entrepreneur! The next day you’re fed up. You have had it. It’s time to make real, productive changes. Even if it has to be on the oh-so-sacred weekend! You’re gonna really buckle down now. So you accept the invitation to the mentorship group that you’ve left on read in your DMs. It’s free, it seems generous and valuable, and you’re grudgingly admitting to yourself you might need help. As soon as you join, they shower you with love, support, encouragement and resources. But ugh. It looks like a lot of work. They want you to “type out your goals.” They want you to share links to your stuff, but you’re embarrassed of your social profiles because well, you’ve done absolutely nothing to polish them besides tinkering with instagram for a few hours. Even though you could get killer mentoring that levels up your biz, personality, and life… you just swipe all their helpful notifications away and breakout the video games and porn. Besides, it’s the weekend & you probably just need to let off steam anyway. Sunday’s booked with partner and fam anyways, so you won’t get any time to yourself if you don’t take it now.

Anyway, there’s always next week.

You do get one last notification though. It’s a personal DM from the leader of the group. They took time to message you personally, and send you a post they made about ‘Focus.’

Wait… are they implying you’re unfocused? Who the hell do they think they are? You came to the group for help, and they all have they have to offer you is an implication that you’d accomplish more if you were focused? What do they think you were doing all week? Don’t they realize you were 100% focused on getting your biz off the ground, things just got in the way. It’s not your fault. Well, you’re not standing for this kind of disrespect.

You fire back your first message in the group ever: “Excuse me, I’m more focused than anyone I know, and I don’t appreciate your tone. I thought this group was for me, but clearly I was wrong.”

Then you leave the group for good measure.

That’ll show ’em.

I mean, of COURSE you’re focused.

They’ll see. They’ll all see.

You’re insanely focused.