Law Of Attraction Terms: Explained (Properly!)
Disclaimer: This isn’t a full guide to manifesting, it’s a helper article that clarifies the most misunderstood parts of the law of attraction.
Disclaimer: This isn’t a full guide to manifesting, it’s a helper article that clarifies the most misunderstood parts of the law of attraction.
I don’t want to rag on any particular teacher, but in general, I couldn’t help but notice a huge issue. Most, (if not all,) LOA teachers hurl words at their audiences without explaining them,
No. You’re simply left in the dark about this stuff.
So… like people speaking different languages, the teachers ‘talk’ and the students ‘listen’, but few people actually understand what’s being communicated, and even fewer make noticeable progress on their dreams and manifestations.
Most teachers toss around phrases like ‘belief’, ‘let go’, and ‘manifest’, then just assume you know what each one means.
Because even the people who study it for ages, and think they know what each term means… often get it wrong. And why wouldn’t they? I mean, only poor explanations (if any) have been offered up. So LOA students end up confused about a key term or two. “What’s the big deal about being confused on one or two words?” you may be thinking. Well, that minor confusion in someone’s mind means they’re unable to effectively apply any concept involving them (ie: most LOA concepts.) Which means they’re unable to ‘manifest’ the desires they want. Which leads to them giving up on, or outright hating, the law and LOA teachers in general.
All because teachers rarely bother to define their terms. (And also because students don’t bother to ask for definitions.)
Do you know what LOA teachers mean when they say ‘believe it and you can achieve it?’ If you’re like most people, you probably think ‘believe’ is a standard dictionary word. Something like:
“Believe: To hold (something) as an opinion; think or suppose.”
But this definition doesn’t do the term justice at all, at least as far as leveraging the law of attraction is concerned.
Abraham-Hicks, one of the best LOA teachers, has a catchy way to sum up what belief is: ‘A belief is just a thought you keep thinking.’
This is essentially correct, but again, woefully inadequate for teaching purposes. This catchy line won’t really teach people much. They won’t ‘get it.’ A huge percentage of the people who hear the above definitions understand very little about the spectrum of belief that’s possible, or the nuances of a belief, or ‘how’ to believe, and so on.
“Belief’ is a deep, nuanced, vital topic for law of attraction, and all you’re ever given is one-sentence explanations of it, when what you really need is a freakin’ essay worth of info on it.
So here’s a step towards the real scoop on ‘belief.’
In fact, there are ‘infinite’ levels of belief, but I’ll divide them into four categories to make things simple. Here are the 4 basic levels of belief:
The former two are ‘weak’ beliefs, while the latter two are ‘strong’ beliefs. (Some people call the level of ‘knowing’ your ‘subconscious mind’ or ‘unconscious competence.’) Unfortunately, no one explains these 4 levels of belief, and so most people are under the impression that they’re ‘believing’ in their dream, but in actuality they’ve only tapped into weak beliefs, not strong ones.
(Note: There are some occasions where weak beliefs can manifest quickly, but this relies on even more terms that haven’t been explained properly… such as ‘desire’ and ‘resistance’, so for now let’s just accept that weak beliefs manifest rarely and unreliably.)
So when a LOA teacher tells you to ‘believe in your dream’, or ‘believe it’s already done’, or ‘believe it and achieve it’, they’re basically all talking about ‘conviction’ or ‘knowing.’ They’re talking about strong beliefs, because it’s strong beliefs that manifest in a reasonable time and with reasonable reliability.
But even though that’s what they mean, I ask you, do these teachers ever say you need ‘conviction’ or ‘knowing?’
Nope. They just talk on and on about belief.
The closest I’ve heard is Abraham-Hicks sometimes using the word ‘belief’ and sometimes using the word ‘expectation’, where they’re both basically ‘beliefs’ but clearly there’s a difference in degree, intensity, or strength between the two. (‘Expectation’ is somewhere between conviction & knowing, I’d say.)
Anyway, the upshot of all this ‘belief-confusion’ is that plenty of people stay on the low-end of the belief spectrum. Plenty of people ‘think’ about their goals or ‘believe’ in their dream, and go nowhere with it. Why? Because there’s a whole second-half of the ‘belief-spectrum’ that they’re supposed to be tapping into, but that was never made clear to them.
It was never explained.
Yes, like all the teachers say, ‘all you need to do is believe’, but a low level of belief (thought) is akin to crawling. It’s agonizingly slow at manifesting, and you’re likely to give up in frustration at how slow it is, or even turn around and head away from your manifestation in despair.
If you think ‘enough’ about something, it may graduate to a ‘belief’, but this is still only about as fast as sauntering towards your goal.
A medium level of belief (conviction) is like power-walking towards your goal, and you’re likely to ‘see movement’ and not give up once you’re at this belief-level. You’ll see signs of your manifestation as you carve a path through life towards it.
Finally, a high level of belief (knowing) is like racing towards your goal. Hit this level of belief and watch manifestations happen miraculously fast.
Does this make sense to you?
This is why LOA teachers say ‘increase your belief’ in your dream, and you’ll get it. But increase it to ‘what?’, that’s the real question. And the answer that you’ve not been given until now is… increase your belief beyond expectation, to one of deep ‘knowing.’
How do we increase our belief into a deep knowing? Well, the ‘naturally gifted’ among us can often just think more about it, or meditate, or affirm whatever they want.
But for most people, the only way to turn a belief into a knowing is with structured, focused, enthusiastic practice. (We’ll get to that later.)
For now, I hope this clarifies the words ‘belief’ and ‘believe’ for you, but click the following link if you want to understand the 4 levels of belief even deeper.
I should note that this all raises another question though… how come some people seem to manifest even if they don’t ‘believe strongly’ in something?
Well, it’s because there’s three main factors in whether your dream manifests or not, (all poorly explained by LOA teachers), and we’ve only discussed the first… So now let’s move on to the second one.
If you’ve heard the above quotes before, you probably know that there’s lots to unpack regarding wants, dreams, and desires.
Can we really manifest ‘anything’ we want? If so, how exactly? Can we fly, teleport, and turn lead to gold all at the same time? If we desire a specific person, can we make them do what we want them to do? Do we really have to write stuff down? What if someone has no arms or is imprisoned and can’t write? Is there a difference between a dream and a desire? Is [goal X] something I really desire, or is it something ego, TV, society, and peer pressure put into my head? And on, and on.
Do you see how confusing a simple word like ‘desire’ or ‘goal’ can be? Well, some version of this word is used everywhere in the LOA-world, by practically everyone, (unsurprisingly) with few explanations or definitions.
And it confuses the hell out of people.
It confused me, and there were no explanations, so I was determined to figure out what it meant for myself. And here’s the best explanation I can offer.
A person can have a desire for heat, but that springs out of cold. They can have a desire for touch, but that springs out of loneliness. They can have a desire for money, but that springs out of feeling lack.
A dog can have a desire for food, or for fresh air, or for whatever, but it generally springs out of a contrasting experience.
Even a single-celled amoeba can have a desire, because it has a guiding light towards environments and stimuli that suit it more… especially once it’s encountered something that suits it less.
Is this clicking for you? A desire is basically a guiding light, birthed from a sub-optimal experience.
An entity (you, your dog, an amoeba, etc.) encounters ‘contrast’ (a sub-optimal experience) of some kind, and from inside the entity arises a ‘desire’, (which is now a ‘guiding light’) that they’ll be seeking as best they can, until said desire is satisfied.
This process happens constantly as a foundation of life, and can never be stopped.
Which means you have desires now, and even if they’re satisfied, you’ll continue to have desires as a guiding light until you die (and beyond, depending on your afterlife beliefs.)
And each desire (guiding light) you have will be somewhere on the ‘general-to-specific’ spectrum.
Meaning you may have a desire (guiding light) calling you just to ‘be warmer’, which is an extremely general desire that can be satisfied in plenty of ways, such as a blanket, new clothes, better insulation, human warmth, a heater, etc.
Or you may have a desire (guiding light) calling you to ‘obtain and wear a Smartwool Merino 250 crewneck, asap,’ which is a much more specific desire that can also be satisfied in many ways, such as receiving the shirt as a gift, purchasing it yourself, finding one somewhere, winning one in a contest, etc.
Or your desire can be somewhere in between on the spectrum, and your desire can gain specificity as time goes on as well, but I repeat, it can’t go away until it’s satisfied, and you can’t ‘let go’ of any desire, even if you think you can. The best you’ll manage to do is ‘forget about it’ for a while, until it pops back up months, years, or decades later.
But there’s something else important LOA teachers rarely mention.
Mom and Dad may have tricked you into the false desire of ‘pleasing them.’ (While there’s nothing wrong with aiming to be helpful, valuable, and pleasant to our parents, if our parents want us to be doctors, but our ‘true desire’ is to be a rockstar, there is little benefit in catering to their whims.)
Or maybe TV has convinced you that fame and fortune are your desires, but actually, your soul ‘truly desires’ a peaceful life, close to nature, owning farmland and maintaining a lot of personal space and privacy. (It’s very easy to get swept up in societal cues and start chasing the money and fame, even though it’s not really your desire.)
Or maybe you ‘think’ your lover wants you to make book sales for them on their next tour, but your real desire is to start a kink clothing line. Many people would quash their kink startup without even being asked to… simply because they imagine their lover wants book sales. (The universe will be slower to respond to such poorly prioritized and ‘fake’ desires.) The reason this happens is because…
Most people are out of practice of listening to their gut, heart, instincts, or conscience. This makes most people extremely easy to persuade, condition, and train away from their true desires. Then they pick up the desires of others (peers, the media, authorities) as their own, and ‘swear’ that these are their true desires, when they really are not.
Basically, a surprising amount of humans don’t actually know what they want.
Which can make manifesting pretty long, drawn-out, and awkward, because the universe doesn’t respond well to ‘feigned desires’ picked up from others. It still does, but just like there are levels of belief… There are also levels of desire, some stronger and more effective for manifestation than others. (And just like the ‘belief-scale’ above, there are actually ‘infinite levels’, I just summed them up into four for ease of explanation):
And on this spectrum, feigned desires picked up from others are weak and manifest slowly & unreliably, if at all. The universe responds most powerfully and quickly to your truest desires and your core desires.
It’s unlikely, because most people never take an honest, soul-searching look at their desires.
Most people don’t check if their desires are coming from an overactive ego, or are inculcated by society, or are dogma from authority, or are a facade to keep the peace and fit in… or if they actually are a resonant desire from our true self.
“The truth shall set you free.”
And it’s common for people to ‘think’ they want something society has programmed them to want… for years, only to discover the reason the universe never delivered it is because the opposite was far more fulfilling for their ‘true’ selves.
This can sound like a cop-out, but the truth is many live an unexamined life and don’t really know what they want.
I wish it were otherwise. And it’s why I teach my students to self-assess well and take stock of themselves before they go claiming ‘I want this’ and ‘I want that’ like a spoiled child.
The reason so many people ‘lie’ to themselves about what they really want, is because they think their desires are something they can ‘’figure out’ with their brain or the ‘voice in their head’, but desires actually come from your gut, your soul, your inner-child, your heart, your instincts, your conscience, etc. And most people will say “Oh yeah, I’m listening to my gut,” when they’re actually not, and they have so little practice doing so that they couldn’t tell the difference between their inner-voice and society-instilled dogma anyway.
And as a child, we were all great at tuning into this part of us and knowing our desires properly.
But as adults, most people are so out of practice at tuning into their true desires, that they can barely notice them anymore.
It pays little attention to feigned ones you lie to yourself about. So it’s vital that you practice tuning into this. A great teacher for people new to listening to their inner-self is Jenna Zoe and her ‘human design’ material. It’s a bit ‘woo-woo’, but it gets the job (of listening to your inner authority) done well. And once you’re good at it, manifestations go much smoother, because you’re in tune with your true, core desires.
I hope that all makes sense, and I hope you understand ‘desire’ much more clearly now, and that the next time you hear an LOA teacher talking about desire, you understand the nuances behind it enough to take a look at your own desires and move your belief towards them effectively.
Interestingly, whenever desire is brought up, there’s usually someone who wants to ask about…
They’ll say “OK, J, what if I desire my ex-girlfriend who hates me to love me again? Can I manifest that? My friend Tara says I can cast a love spell on my ex with Wiccan rituals, and my other friend Bella says I can use black magick or sex-magick to do the same.”
Ah yes, ‘can I control my ex against their will?’, a classic LOA riddle that often polarizes the LOA community pretty strongly.
Well, here are the possibilities.
Those three things are each possible answers, but now you have a chance to view this LOA riddle in a new light. View in the light of ‘levels of desire’ (and belief) I mentioned earlier.
Like… take stock: Are you 100% sure you have an appropriate level of belief to back up your answer to the ‘control my ex’ conundrum? Like are you sure you have ‘knowing’ beyond conviction, beyond expectation, regarding your ability to control others?
And even if you are, are you also 100% sure your true desire is to control someone else? Are you 100% sure that out of all 8 billion people on the planet there’s not someone better queued up for you? Are you 100% sure we’re talking about a true or core desire here, rather than a surface desire or worse, a feigned desire? Are you sure you’re not attached and obsessed for the wrong reasons, and completely out of tune with your soul’s core desire?
Most people don’t even stop to think, they just blurt out “Yes! I’m sure!”
And it’s a bit sad.
Because an instant “yes I’m sure” response usually ain’t a healthy dose of critical thinking. Usually it’s just a knee-jerk, triggered response, from someone who’s not at peace with the flow of life. It’s not a sign of someone who’s open-minded, who trusts the universe, and who’s willing to take a hard, honest look at their beliefs, their desires, and themselves.
But anyway, let’s say that by some total fluke, you know *better* than the universe on how to deliver love into your life, and you know it’s this 1 person out all 8 billion on earth. Let’s say that even though the universe knows all the humans, and knows which ones are best for you, that you’re ‘stalker-level-obsessed’ (or ‘a soulmate, I swear!’) with this one specific person but it’s totally correct, healthy, and a true desire.
Can the universe fulfill your desire to make your ex-girlfriend reunite with you in love and lust?
Well, even if the answer was ‘yes’, it’s still a tall order.
“What? I thought the universe could do anything, big or small, J!”
Oh, the universe can, sure. I meant that it’s a tall order for… you, my dear manifestor. Because you have tons of history/baggage with this person. You have tons of ‘limiting beliefs’, doubts, triggers, insecurities. And you’re not the only one with baggage, doubts, and limiting beliefs… your ex probably has the same, or worse. You and she are not a ‘blank slate’ on this topic. (And to be honest, I’m still doubtful this is even a ‘true desire’ for you.)
The point is, it’s a tall order to manifest that, because stuff like that requires a high level of belief, plus a high level of desire, and a low level of resistance. But baggage means a lot of resistance. And so, you likely have a lot of practice needed in all three of these areas (at least regarding this topic.) Plus it all still hinges on whether or not you believe in free will.
If you believe in robbing people, you must also believe you can be robbed. If you’re completely self-interested, then you believe others are too.
So… Do you believe *you* have free will? Yes? Then you must ‘give’ free will to others.
It also opens you up to being controlled by ‘fate.’ What’s possible for one human is possible for another, at least in our present, shared reality on earth. So it’s a safe bet you don’t currently have enough belief-strength or desire-strength to manifest you being rich and everyone else is poor, just like you don’t have the belief-strength to manifest that you’re the only free-willed human, and everyone else is a puppet you control.
A fleeting comment on an internet forum or playing devil’s advocate with an LOA teacher won’t cut it. With low levels of desire/belief, you can’t manifest shit, especially not suddenly putting the rest of the planet into poverty.
Weak desire & weak belief manifest almost nothing, so they’re hardly worth discussing.
But if you did build more ‘manifestation strength’ up, the universe could still deliver such an experience to you in ways you might not expect. Maybe the universe would give you the experience of making you rich and everyone else poor through a vivid lucid dream.
Or perhaps the universe would put you into a coma, living out a fantasy that feels real in your mind.
Or maybe the universe would help you convince yourself that the only real wealth is spirituality, and that you’re the most spiritual, and everyone else is not, so they are the poor ones and you’re the only rich one (of course, they would all be experiencing a different reality, one where you’re a poor crazy person and they’re all still as rich as ever.)
Or maybe the economy changes drastically when Elon Musk reaches Mars, and you’re left holding the world’s wealth.
So it may not be technically ‘you controlling everyone else to become poor’, but it may be a ‘real experience’ for you, so that you end up with the manifested reality you wanted, and others get the manifested reality they wanted.
The same thing applies to ‘controlling your ex against their will’ that applies to ‘controlling everyone else to be poor.’ I.E. To even consider this you’ll need reasonable levels of belief, reasonable levels of desire, and low levels of resistance.
(And most free will is just a ‘clash of beliefs’ anyway. Meaning whoever has the stronger beliefs ‘wins’ and sets the frame for reality. In these cases, the other person’s ‘manifestation’ crumbles in the face of stronger beliefs, then they wonder why they “can’t manifest” what they wanted. And it’s like… “Duh dude, because the other person had stronger desires/beliefs than you.” — You see it in sports teams all the time. Both teams believe they can ‘manifest’ a victory, but who actually wins? The team/players with the higher overall belief-level, for a more sustained amount of time.)
So… Can you control others? Manifest for them? LOA teachers still debate this, but the whole thing is kind of silly. Do you honestly think you came to a diverse planet earth, with billions of people, in order to control them all? And everyone else came here with the same purpose, to control you?
Think about it. When your soul came to earth in a human body, your soul agreed that ‘we are all one,’ and that what is available to one is available to all… should they desire it. In the game of life, you agreed to play by some basic rules, (at least to start,) like the law of gravity, and having ‘free-willed’ others around. Technically it may be possible to beat these rules, or exert such an extreme influence on others that you can nudge them to act against their will… but that’s Jesus-Level stuff. It’s a ridiculously high-bar to reach, and for anyone reading this, infinitesimally likely this lifetime.
Questions like “Can I manifest Bill Gates becoming a serial killer?” are kind of like asking, “Can I bench press a twenty-ton weight unassisted?”
If we dig deep into quantum realities, it might be technically possible, but it’s something that only two expert manifestors should bother discussing. Because even if it’s technically possible, it’s so impractical for anyone reading this that’s it’s nearly pointless to talk about beyond some fun philosophy. Like… If you don’t currently have the strength to bench press even 200lbs., why even devote airtime to theories on lifting twenty tons?”
Another example of what I mean: The Wright Brothers manifested human flight by inventing a working airplane, but they weren’t in the town square asking “I wonder if we can manifest circling the globe at Mach 5?” because that’d be silly considering their ‘belief-level’ and ‘desire-level.’ Instead, they bit off what they could chew, belief-wise and desire-wise. They just wanted to get a few feet off the ground sustainably.
Humans traveling at Mach 5 manifested generations later.
So even if it *is* possible to trump someone else’s free will, why not stop debating weird philosophical questions and instead just improve your manifestation abilities? Why not just work on your own belief-strength and desire-strength and see what you personally can accomplish. Why not make things easier on yourself? Why not approach manifestation in a ‘healthier’ way? Why not think something more like…
“My true desire is for a fulfilling partnership and romantic life. The universe knows my desire, and knows better than I even imagine who the right fit is. I’m open to it being my ex –IF THEY’RE AMENABLE–, but I’m also open to it being any other humans on the planet. I may make a list of traits I’d like in a partner, but I’m not gonna get too obsessively picky and attached to any one specific person. I’m not gonna chase anyone, I’ll simply do my LOA work, raise my beliefs and energy on this topic, and be excited to see which incredible human being Source matches me up with.”
Some of our most finicky desires and hot-button dreams can manifest so much easier if we…
Relax more about which ‘exact’ person you’ve suddenly decided it ‘absolutely must be.’
Because while you’re thinking ‘I WANT MY EX, AND ONLY MY EX, AND NO ONE ELSE BECAUSE I KNOW BEST!’ The universe may be thinking ‘I know you want [person A] but [person A] is going to commit suicide soon’ or ‘[person A] has STDs you don’t know about and crazy ex-boyfriends who will bring drama’ or ‘[person A] will crush your ambitions and derail your career. I’m gonna guide you to [person B] who’s just like [person A], but better and without the downsides.’
Whew, I believe I’ve covered the ‘free will’ thing better than most teachers. Hopefully this sheds some light on the topic and helps you understand what’s up when other teachers talk about this stuff. Hopefully it gets rid of some of the ‘pain’ of not understanding well.
Speaking of which, let’s talk about…
So we just talked about how desire is born from ‘contrast.’
But what is contrast? Well, contrast is basically… ‘life.’
It’s what people mean when they say ‘hey man, life happens.’ Contrast is the experiences the universe delivers to us. They’re manifestations from the universe but… usually we don’t see them as ‘manifestations’ because they’re something we don’t recall intentionally choosing. Instead we see them as ‘pain’, ‘discomfort’, ‘negatives’, ‘contrast’ or we just call it ‘life.’ And the universe delivers it to us for a reason.
Then once we have one or more desires calling us, guiding us, then we have a purpose (or reason) to bother ‘aligning’ with them. We have a ‘reason’ to ‘live’ (satiating desires birthed within us.)
Contrast → Desire → Purpose (A reason for us to bother ‘humaning.’)
But here’s something funny about all this. A surprising number of people think they can eliminate contrast from the earth.
They want to eliminate poverty for all, or hunger for all, etc. They want to eliminate the contrast that life serves up in order to spark desire in each individual.
This is counter-productive at best or soul-crushing at worst.
Why is it counterproductive? Because there’s no light without darkness, no sunshine without rain, no pleasure without pain. You can’t eliminate contrast. It’s the way the whole universe is set up. People who live great lives are the ones who are a) most accepting & at peace with contrast, and b) most able to align to their desires whenever contrast pops up… so that they quickly manifest joyful solutions.
Making peace with contrast takes practice for 99% of people.
But it’s one of the most worthwhile things in the world that you can practice.
I highly recommend it, because ‘the system’ of life we’ve all come to earth to experience will continually serve up ‘unwanted manifestations’ to you in the form of contrast, because that’s what births new desires, spurs you to create new solutions, and causes the expansion and evolution of life.
And that contrast generally won’t ‘feel good’, so we’d best dig deeper into…
Every human being is blessed with emotions for a reason. We don’t have ‘feelings’ because of random chance. Feelings are one of the incredible powers of being human. They’re a purposeful adaptation or evolution by nature, because nature (the universe) knows what it’s doing.
Abraham-Hicks says your emotions are like your ‘fuel gauge,’ letting you know whether you’re running out of gas on the journey to your manifestations.
Because you never really run out of gas on your journey towards your dreams (unless you’re dead), but you can end up ‘turned around’ or going the wrong direction if you fail to listen to, and adjust your emotions.
And just like a compass always points ‘north*’, your emotions are always pointing towards ‘feeling better.’
If you feel ‘powerless’, that feeling is pointing you towards ‘more power’, and so if you were to get ‘angry’ or ‘fired up’, it’d be a step in the right direction. If instead you thought dark thoughts and ended up feeling worthless and suicidal, you have gone the opposite direction of where your emotions were pointing.
Your emotions are like a compass pointing you towards at least the ‘next best emotion’, and it’s on you to take a step in the right emotional direction.
Another example might be if you felt ‘bored.’ That feeling of boredom is pointing you towards ‘more interesting things’, so if you were to decide to paint or go for a walk or play a game or write a blog, it’d be a step in the right direction. If instead, you choose to dwell on your boredom, act as if there’s no cure for it, then you end up feeling frustrated and annoyed… you’d have gone the opposite direction of where your emotions were pointing.
Your emotions are always pointing you up (or ‘north’, or towards ‘better’) on the emotional scale.
The scale looks like the image above.
Like the other two spectrums I’ve explained, this one has infinite levels as well, I’ve just simplified it to just a few emotions here.
And your emotions can apply to any topic with varying intensities.
You’ll have certain emotions about money, and certain emotions about relationships, and certain emotions about health. Your feelings will be marked at different points on the scale for each topic, but they’ll all be ‘calling’ you upwards, no matter how high or low they happen to be at the moment.
Remember my analogy is that emotions are mainly an indicator, like the needle of a compass. But at the same, like Abe says, your emotions do also act like ‘gas,’ pouring fuel on to your manifestations too.
This is where the intensity of your emotions comes into play. The intensity of your emotions depends on how ‘important’ your desire or topic is to you. (You probably won’t have intense emotions about ‘getting breakfast’, but you’re likely to have intense emotions about ‘injustice’, for example.)
*I’m aware compasses point differently when discussing magnetic north vs. geographic north or true north, etc., but the analogy still works.
They also depend on your focus and intentions, because you can intentionally get fired up about any topic if you want to. And that fired-up intensity of your emotions can affect how fast you manifest things. In other words, if you feel intensely positive about money, you’ll have a much easier time manifesting it. If you feel vaguely positive about money, it’ll manifest but probably not with jaw-dropping results. If you feel intensely bad about money, you’ll manifest poverty, bankruptcy, etc.
Here’s an excerpt from /u/klepperx on the LawOfAttraction subreddit:
Science confirms that emotions come AFTER thoughts. LOA agrees and teaches that emotions are indicators of alignment with your inner being’s thoughts. For example, if you think, “I am dumb, I’m so stupid, I am never going to get this.” You will receive an indicator of negative emotion – why? Because your inner-being doesn’t agree with that thought, AKA it’s not true.
If you think, “I hate that person and want them to die” You’re also going to receive a negative emotional indicator, you THINK it’s because that person did something mean to you or what not, but that feeling you feel is actually because your inner-being loves that person, and is not in agreement with the thought that they are dumb…
Let’s say your intention is to get someplace fast. So you hop in your car and start driving. Your car gives you the INDICATOR of low fuel. Is this negative and unwanted – a sign that you “failed” and are bad? NO! It’s extremely helpful and positive! You LIKE having those indicators that let you know: IF you continue on this path, without changing something, it will not end up where you want to be*. So now you can stop and get some more fuel, and go along your merry way.
This is a pretty good explanation of your emotion’s place and purpose.
But I’ll also add that intentionally adjusting your emotions will ‘add juice’ to the reality that your desires & beliefs (convictions/knowings) are creating. It’s your desires & beliefs that are the ‘mold’ for your reality, and your emotions are mainly helpers guiding you on the way. Just know they can also be ‘used’ to ‘juice up’ (or slow down) the speed of your manifestations.
I’ve seen an LOA teacher here or there say ‘your emotions don’t matter’ and all you need to manifest is desire, and well-programmed beliefs. And while that may technically be true, it’s kind of like saying ‘a power-drill doesn’t matter, you can build a house with just a hammer & nails,’ — while technically true, it’s really foolish to ignore an incredible tool in your toolbox.
Your emotions are super-important, and have a major impact, but for many people that impact is negative because they haven’t practiced getting in tune with their emotions. And they haven’t practiced managing their mood. And someone who is unpracticed at mood management, is more at the mercy of their mood, than the master of it. Some people are best served by meditating and relaxing their emotions, because most of their emotions are so intensely negative.
So please, practice navigating your emotions well. Learn where they’re pointing to and do what it takes to ‘feel better.’
Use your emotions well to orient yourself towards alignment, use them to guide you on your journey, use them to live a great life.
And most importantly, use them to amplify the speed and reliability of your deliberate manifestation.
Which brings us to the next word people are confused about. 🙂
What is a ‘manifestation?’ Well, above, I explained how ‘contrast’ is a manifestation from the universe. And I explained it’s generally unpleasant experiences served up to us by life that we swear we didn’t create intentionally. And you’re probably here to learn how to a) minimize those kinds of experiences as well as b) create more desirable experiences of your own.
So basically, a manifestation is anything you experience.
A manifestation is anything you experience in your own individual, physical reality.
Some of them you manifest intentionally, others are manifested and delivered to you by the universe.
According to ‘parallel realities’ and ‘quantum theory’…
…every single moment is a manifestation…
…and you can technically ‘step into’ any reality you want, moment-by-moment with enough mental strength and conscious mastery.
“Today a young man on acid realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration, that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively, there is no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we are the imagination of ourselves. Here’s Tom with the Weather.” – Bill Hicks
When it comes down to it, you, as an individual extension of source / god / the divine / the universe… have the power to ‘realize’ anything you can imagine, but the exact details of how such imaginings manifest may often be outside your awareness or conscious decision.
(Note: ‘Realize’ in LOA terms usually means ‘to make something real’ or ‘manifest’ it, but be careful because someone might be using a more traditional definition of the word where it means to ‘understand’ something instead.)
All of this delivers us (unsurprisingly) to another misunderstood concept.
You ‘realize’ (or ‘materialize’, or ‘manifest’) manifestations by condensing them into physical reality from a greater ‘energetic’ reality (or from a soul-reality, or dimensional-reality, or quantum-reality, the vortex, your ‘subconscious mind’, etc.)
So, if you’re deliberately manifesting, then your manifestation must manifest from ‘somewhere’, and the process of summoning something from an energetic reality into a physical reality is generally what people are referring to when they talk about creation.
Technically though, it’s more like this:
This is the growth of a seed-idea into a full-fledged realization (or manifestation, or experience.)
When the seed of your desire (your ‘dream’) is watered with enough belief (‘knowing!’), while you hold minimal resistance (‘pests’)… then you’ve created a healthy ‘mental environment’ for your desire (dream) to manifest.
I like to think this is the clearest explanation of ‘thoughts become things.’
Be aware though, that in the above outline, I mentioned ‘resistance,’ which is yet another LOA topic most people are confused about, so let’s clear it up.
Imagine your desire’s a seed you’re nurturing to blossom into a flower (or fruit.) Resistances are like insects that eat away at the plant, continually slowing its growth or even killing it, forcing you to start over from a seed again.
Some LOA teachers call resistance ‘doubt,’ or ‘unbelief,’ or ‘limiting beliefs,’ or ‘energy leaks,’ or ‘emotional obstacles.’
Every teacher seems to use their own language.
Anyway, your manifestations hinge on three key factors: The strength (and consistency) of your desire, the strength (and consistency) of your belief, and the amount (and consistency) of resistance you have around it.
The difference between an expert deliberate manifestor who’s great at creating the result they want and a newbie, is that the expert has a solid handle on these 3 things, and consciously manipulates them in their favor.
Now, it’s common for newbies to have a strong desire (like they *really* want something.) It’s less common for newbies to have strong beliefs (like they *really* believe they can have their desire,) but a decent chunk of newbies do manage it. But it’s extremely rare for newbie manifestors to consciously drop their resistance.
For example, a newbie manifestor may want a better body. They desire it strongly and believe they deserve it strongly.
But they have tons of hidden resistances around this goal.
And often the resistance goes on and on. Can you see how much hate, fear, doubt, uncertainty, hesitance, and avoidance they have wrapped up in their desire for a better body?
And do you see how it’s usually hidden resistance? Like they have all these secret fears but they never express them or own them or write them or share them. Instead when people ask how it’s going they just say “Oh, I’m working on my dream body, I’m sure I’ll get it soon.”
Anyone with that much resistance (or doubts, or unbelief) is extremely unlikely to manifest. It’s simple logic. That much intense, heavy, consistent resistance isn’t a healthy environment for manifesting. I mean, it’s technically possible with enough desire and belief to trump all that resistance, but good luck pulling that off.
And the same thing applies to money or relationships too.
The wisest and fastest path to manifestation is to uncover any hidden resistance you have, then relax or ‘let go’ of as much as possible, because neglecting this key ‘lever’ just sets you up for a bumpy, slow ride.
Because every thought you think (broadcast), or every thought you receive from the universe (as a manifestation), pings your ‘emotional radar’ (or compass,) that means… Every thought carries an emotion attached to it.
You could think “I love money”, and it could come with an attached emotion of joy because you’re spending it on yummy food, or it could come with an attached emotion of hopelessness because you believe you’re running out of cash.
You could think “Oooh, I hate so-and-so”, and it could come with an attached emotion of joy because you’re pulling off a hilarious joke and don’t really mean it, or it could come with an attached emotion of rage because you haven’t made peace with the target of your thought and really do hate them.
And you could think (and feel) any of the above, all while making choices that go against them. You could think (and feel) that you love money, then choose to be a miser. You could think (and feel) that you’re ‘just joking around’ about hating someone, but then choose to treat them poorly anyway.
Your thoughts, moods, and choices can either harmonize into alignment towards your goals, or not.
Same goes for your desires, beliefs, and resistances. You can have a high level of desire and belief with a low level of resistance alongside, or vice-versa, or some other blend of the three. Your desires, beliefs, and resistances can harmonize in alignment, or not.
When LOA teachers talk about your ‘vibration’, ‘alignment’, ‘harmony’ or ‘overall energy’, they’re usually referring to the average (of your particular blend) of all these things, for any given topic.
When LOA teachers tell you to ‘raise your vibration’ or ‘get into alignment’ in order to manifest, it’s their shorthand way of telling you to consciously elevate your thoughts, moods, and choices. They’re telling you to make sure your desires and beliefs are high, while your resistance is low.
They’re telling you to align all these aspects of yourself as best you can, because if they’re in disharmony or discord, manifestation will be quite difficult, no matter what methods or techniques you’re using.
Speaking of which, time to talk about…
(Other terms: ‘protocols’, ‘tools’, ‘exercises’, etc.)
When a LOA teacher suggests methods, techniques, exercises, tricks, programs, courses, and so on…
They are simply giving you practical approaches for elevating your moods, beliefs, and desires, (or to help lower your resistances.) They are recommending methods to help you achieve increased alignment with your dreams / the universe.
But please understand…
No matter how great these teachers are…
Yes, it’d be great if there was a one-size-fits-all approach that LOA teachers could recommend for students. It really would, it’d make everything so much simpler.
But the truth is that you’re an incredibly unique ‘blend’ of vibrational offerings on the millions of topics life holds. You have a ‘high, success vibe’ in some areas, a ‘low, struggle vibe’ in other areas, and also have ‘appallingly low blocked vibes’ in others still.
And these change over time.
Which means, the method(s) that work for you will be unique as well. And they may also change over time. So life will ‘call’ you to various methods, in various ways, at various times to help navigate around your particular hangups, and integrate organically into your specific situation.
They will be methods that suit your budget, culture, economy, resources, access, beliefs, attention span, etc. And the only way such specifically tailored methods are going to show up for you is the Universe delivering to you a ‘customized plan’ flawlessly crafted for you. This is why people pick up and put down various methods during their ‘life journey’, until they find their favorites.
Maybe the universe will ‘call you’ towards subliminals for a bit, only to quickly make you bored of them, so that you move on to meditation. Maybe the universe will have you skip subliminals and meditation and go straight to appreciation and ‘positive-aspects’ lists. Maybe the universe will make you ‘pissed off’ at one teacher’s methods, just to nudge you towards a better teacher for you. Maybe the universe will help you invent your own method.
This is why it’s not really about which method is better than another, it’s about you experimenting with life, following your true impulses, guidance, and emotions, then playing with the methods that resonate with you most and that you find get you satisfying results.
There are so many methods:
Stop debating over them like a bunch of nerds in a debate club. Don’t just poll people and try whatever others say are effective for them. Instead explore whatever methods call you. Play with them. Experiment with them. Give whichever methods the universe is directing you towards a ‘proper try’ and find whatever works for you.
Because ultimately, even if you were trapped in a desert with ‘zero methods’ available, you can still manifest and use the law of attraction.
They’re just helpers. You can use them if you want, but don’t get too attached to them because the one who has the power to manifest anything is you.
All that said, I know the feeling of ‘desperately wanting a practical method’ to start with, so here are the three ‘best’, ranked by popularity/efficiency/results/whatever.
Most techniques, exercises, and LOA tricks you come across are actually just a variation of the 3 methods above.
Google any of them and you’ll see for yourself that at the core of most methods, is some version of the above three things. So again, it’s not the method that matters, it’s you finding your own ways to meditate, appreciate, and visualize so that your desires, beliefs, and resistances are aligned well, creating a healthy environment for your dreams to pop into reality.
Remember from above: your emotions guide you towards ‘feeling better’ in every moment, and they guide you similarly as you explore any method.
Look deep inside yourself and tune into your emotions to see how you really feel about any particular method. No one external can tell you what’s best for you. But your feelings are always guiding you towards ‘feeling better’, which means they’re guiding you towards methods that suit you. On the flipside, any action you take from a feeling-place of lack, or that lowers you on the emotional scale will backfire. So if a method isn’t joyful in the practice of it, it’s not the right one for you at that time.
Now, I’ll touch on one specific method that gets brought up a lot:
This is a ‘famous’ vibration-raising (or alignment) method that combines visualization and appreciation. It’s often recommended as a reliable method because all of us, as children, were able to ‘pretend’ or play ‘make-believe.’ This means we all have an innate, natural knack for pretending.
That said, a lot of adults and LOA-newbie’s imagination-muscles are rusty, so this method is best for people with a comfort or inclination towards acting and imagination. This method may not be the best place to start for people who’ve let their imaginations atrophy. As I mentioned above, for any method, check with your inner-guidance, your feelings, and emotions, to determine which method is best for you to focus on in any given moment.
Caveats aside, if you do find true joy in this method, it’s exceptionally effective as it combines two of the three most effective ingredients of vibration-raising at once. I can’t stress enough though that just because me or someone else has made this method ‘sound good’ to you, is not a reason to try it.
The only reason to try any method is because your gut, instincts, conscience, or some other form of emotion is nudging you to.
You’re meant to explore any method that calls to you, and I don’t mean methods that speak to your intellect, I mean methods that speak to your heart, your gut, your emotions. Explore the methods that really, truly feel good to you. (Life’s guidance comes in the form of cellular impulses, not your ‘logical, rational, ego-focused’ mind, and the world’s wisest teachers have agreed upon this for centuries.)
And it may feel ‘weird’ to do this at first.
Because a huge part of this LOA stuff takes practice, it takes you applying yourself. And you’ll only sustainably practice methods that you’ve been called to and that are part of your particular life-journey. And in order to do that, you absolutely must practice tuning into your inner-guidance early and often.
And on that note:
These are all people’s way of referring to something that we don’t really have language for. The all-encompassing, omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient ‘source’ of everything. The infinite pool of ‘energy’ responsible for the expansion of our reality, our universe, our evolution, our selves.
Language is almost useless here since it’s just a bunch of individual beings with individual perspectives trying their best to describe the ineffable, infinite collective that all manifestations spring from.
It’s like an ant trying to understand Einstein, then re-explain it to an amoeba.
The best way I can explain Source (or infinite, or the vortex, or whatever) is a giant sentient ocean of energy, where every manifestation is a frozen, solidified, ice pellet made from an individual drop.
It’s still not the greatest explanation for Source, but I believe it’s better than everything else I’ve heard, and hopefully it helps enlighten you.
Because the game of life is one of summoning source-energy through you in order to ‘realize’ your dreams.
And like any game, it takes practice.
I emphasize practice a lot.
Actually, I believe I emphasize it more than any other LOA teacher. I’m fairly certain you won’t find one who’s more passionate about practice than I am. I’m obsessed with it.
Because, while other teachers focus so much on theory, philosophy, debating methods, explaining the universe, and all that stuff…
I focus on ‘practical’ law of attraction. Because while they serve you up candy-coated feel-good philosophies that keep you binging their channels for dopamine hits… I serve you up just enough explanation to kick you in the ass and get you practicing.
And while they tell you to love yourself, be gentle with yourself, and take as long as you want… I tell you to step-up and really master this stuff, asap. Yes, your soul is eternal and you can’t get it wrong. Yes you can reincarnate and do it again better. But honestly…
Don’t let years go by with you barely manifesting anything you want. Apply yourself, practice, master it, and get what you want this lifetime.
Because you deserve it. And it’s possible. And you already know how.
Teachers like me are just here to remind you.
All you need is need proper, honest, heartfelt, enthusiastic, passionate, real, hardcore fucking practice.
But there’s something to know about practice.
You have to make practice fun.
I’ve written multiple times about practice, so I won’t go into it deeper here, but I will reiterate… you must make it fun, or it backfires.
Like a kid practicing a video game, sport, or dance… your practice must be something fun that you look forward to.
I hope this resonates with you.
For example you lose something, it *might* be good to look for it, but it might be *better* to avoid looking for it. Because if you avoid looking for it, it figuratively “could be anywhere”, this allows the universe to guide you toward it organically. Similar things can happen with tech. Many people are able to ‘leave their computer alone’, and return to find it has fixed itself. The point is some effort must be applied in life, but it’s a fine balance between that and over-effort.
Effective practice is always and only… something you do for fun. Because it feels good.
And it’s on you to ‘make it fun’, like someone who whistles while they wash dishes or someone who reads a book on a long commute.
Yes it takes ‘some effort’, the same way ingesting food or visiting a friend or ‘shooting some hoops’ takes ‘some effort.’
It’s not a burden. It’s fun. It’s you getting better at manifesting, leveraging the law of attraction, and living life on your own terms. Your practice is you applying yourself proactively, and progressing towards your dreams.
So yes, love yourself, of course. And yes, be gentle with yourself, of course. But don’t get so obsessed with these two things that you neglect the most important thing of all…
Applying your personal efforts towards fun, effective, practice.
Letting go doesn’t mean what most people think it does. (The same goes for ‘detachment.’)
Which can occasionally help manifest by soothing your active resistance on certain topics, *BUT* can also slow down manifestations if you stop focusing on something that was actually working.
But this advice is simply… wrong. You can’t let go of a desire. If a drowning man desires air you wouldn’t tell him to ‘let go’ and it will manifest. If you’re hungry today or tomorrow, I wouldn’t tell you to ‘let go’ of your desire for food.
Also known as: ‘let go of the over-focus, the specifics, the forced effort, and the trying.’ This is the best application of the phrase ‘let go’ to improve manifestation.
The point I’m getting at is there are multiple LOA-related meanings for ‘let go’, and it’s really, really important you sort out which one applies to your situation, and that you avoid confusing one for another when a LOA teacher is talking.
This is especially key because the third meaning is a game-changer for powerful manifestation, while the other two will hinder you at worst, and be a mediocre help at best.
Learn the feeling of letting go of forced effort and trusting the universe, while also learning to embrace your desires, since letting go of them is impossible.
(LOL, best manifestation ever.)
When this project started, it was going to be a quick explanation of ‘desire & belief,’ but with every inspired word I wrote, more ideas popped up and I thought “Oh, it’d be great to include ‘this’”, or “it’s huge value to include ‘that.’”
And don’t get me started on proof-reading, heh.
So, the project just kept growing and evolving, and I began to wonder when it would end. (Not in an anxious way, simply in a “I’m curious where all this inspiration will take me” way.)
And we’ve just about wrapped it up.
Except there’s one thing I’d like to express, and it’s this:
I can’t make you read this post carefully, or re-read it, or practice applying it, even though I know it’s likely helpful for you to do all three. The truth is…
If you want to misinterpret it, you will.
If you want to go back to binging LOA content on YouTube, you will.
But deep down, I hope you know, you’re in for a really hard time applying *any* LOA content if you don’t have a firm grasp on the terms and concepts above. And I hope you realize that being unclear or confused on even one of these words and phrases, may taint and ruin many other LOA concepts you’re trying to make work… all due to lack of clarity.
So it’s hyper-valuable to sort these out and get them right, and I hope you can tell I’ve poured epic amounts of love into a) understanding them myself and b) explaining them ‘better’ than others have, here for you.
I did this because I’m selfish as fuck.
I did this because I want better manifestors in my life who ‘get’ law of attraction and use it to make the world better.
I did this because I’m proud of how well I teach and explain, and it feels good to use that skill to serve others.
And I hope you ‘selfishly’ apply the understandings above towards getting what you want in life too.
Note: Law Of Attraction is simple at its core, but like many skills, has a nuanced execution and takes a decent amount of time and effort to ‘get right,’ (for those not naturally gifted)… so there’s more to learn than mentioned here. I wrote this simply because thousands of LOA teachers and millions of LOA students throw all these terms around without ever explaining them, and often not even understanding the terms well themselves.
These explanations may not be perfect, but I’m confident this post will help a lot of LOA students, and I know it could help more if you’d share it in any Law Of Attraction circles you’re part of.
Whew. I hope you enjoyed it, and I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing, and even skimming, and I wish you huge joy and success in creating the life you want.